Tuesday, March 8, 2011

First Gentle Sex Scene

I'm writing my first gentle sex scene. I've put it off because I thought it would be a no-brainer. I've written hardcore sex before, this should be easy. Man, was I wrong! I'm not a prude. I like sex. I've had sex. I read sex. I even like talking about sex. It doesn't embarrass me.

So why can't I write about normal sex?

This concerns me because my chosen genre is erotic romance. Sex scenes are mandatory. My first attempt at heterosexual, loving sex read like an instruction manual--no passion, no inner dialog, no feeling. My second try was too much inner dialog and no action. I tried putting the two together but I can't make them flow. It's like switching between the Science and Soap channels.

I tried getting some refresher experience with my significant other last night. Unfortunately, we both have colds and had dosed ourselves with NyQuil. We ended up falling asleep on each other.

I now have a higher regard for writers who write successful sex scenes.

1 comment:

  1. Aah, I remember my first time. It read a lot like, "Insert tab A into slot B," and I decided erotic romance was not my strong suit. Then I tried again, when my partner had been away for several weeks and the loneliness(and, ya know) was becoming unbearable. I skimmed through a few love scenes, picked out my favorite bits, then sat on them for a while before the scene just started playing out in my mind.

    Yeah, it wasn't great, and I wound up a hundred times more frustrated afterward, but it was done!